TEXAS GOSPEL VOLUNTEER

Trust is often assumed to be something that should be given freely and without condition, but a closer look at Scripture reveals a more nuanced picture. Trust, properly understood, is not meant to be unconditional. Instead, it should be shaped by the actions and choices of the person receiving it. In some situations, choosing not to trust someone is actually the wiser and healthier path.

Mistakes are a normal part of any relationship, and grace exists precisely to cover those moments. Everyone falls short in one way or another. However, there is an important distinction to draw between a single mistake, one that is acknowledged, repented of, and followed by a genuine commitment to change and repair, and a repeated pattern of harmful behaviour. The first calls for grace and a path toward rebuilding trust. The second is a different situation entirely, one where continuing to extend full trust may not be wise.

Recognizing this difference protects people from being taken advantage of while still leaving room for genuine forgiveness and restoration when it is warranted. Trust rebuilt after real repentance and a commitment to change looks very different from trust extended toward an unchanging pattern of harm.

“Now if your brother sins, go and show him his fault in private; if he listens to you, you have gained your brother. ¹⁶ But if he does not listen to you, take one or two more with you, so that on the testimony of two or three witnesses every matter may be confirmed. ¹⁷ And if he refuses to listen to them, tell it to the church; and if he refuses to listen even to the church, he is to be to you as a Gentile and a tax collector.

Matthew 18:15-17