Marriage and Family Dynamics

JEFF TURNER

Marriage marks a significant turning point in a person’s life, particularly in how family relationships are structured. One important change happens in the bond between a man and his parents. In Matthew 19:5, Jesus explained, “A man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife.” This passage speaks to more than just moving out of the family home.

In ancient times, families often lived close together, sometimes adding rooms to the family house as children married. Physical distance wasn’t the main issue. The true meaning lies in a shift of authority and responsibility. When a man marries, he steps out from under his parents’ leadership. He no longer answers to their authority in the same way he once did.

At the same time, the father of the bride releases his role of care and guidance over his daughter. The husband now takes on both authority and responsibility in the home. This authority isn’t harsh or controlling; rather, it is meant to be gentle, loving, and centred on guiding his family towards faith and righteousness. Marriage, then, reshapes family roles, creating a new household where mutual care and spiritual leadership are vital.

For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is the head of the church, He Himself being the Savior of the body.

Ephesians 5:23